Probably because I've spent 30 years in the Arts (a community that's traditionally accepting of various lifestyles), a large percentage of my friends are gay.Most of them (like most of my friends in general) are over 30.describes a significant shift toward monogamy and ‘monogamish’ and away from ‘open relationships’.In the primarily quantitative arm of the study, 85% percent of the single respondents (ages 18-39) were seeking a monogamous relationship and an overwhelming preponderance of responding couples were currently in a monogamous relationship (86%).Mikey Rox and Everett Earl Morrow, both now 30, were committed to monogamy when they met and fell in love. “After a couple instances of infidelity to which we both confessed, we decided it’s not realistic to expect either of us to never hook up with anyone else ever again,” says Rox, principal of Paper Rox Scissors Copy and Creative in Manhattan.
Unlike heterosexual relationships, gay relationships form simply because two people want to be together.
Whether its "playing" as a couple only or allowing for out-of-town flings or no-kissing-allowed or sexual-position-specific extracurricular hookups, one thing is for certain: Monogamy it is not.
Assuming that most of these gay couples started out with at least the attempt of keeping it in their pants outside the relationship, why does monogamy appear to be so difficult for gay couples to maintain?
No matter when a gay man enters into the land of all things boyfriend, one particular question never ceases to arise: The short answer? But for the frustrated but hopeful "monogay," it often seems nearly impossible to find a homo couple who have surpassed the five-year mark without opening up their relationship in one way or another.
Naturally, each couple is different, complete with a brow-furrowing set of rules that they have constructed over the years.